What I envy about the way it is done today is the fact that you can actually get to know one another in a comfortable setting with no pressure on saying or doing the right thing to attract one another. You can first swap pictures, if that is acceptable and you like the goods you see, then you can actually start corresponding to one another getting to know each other. If all of that goes well, then you can actually pick the place, and time to get together, giving you the most opportune meeting with looking your very best on that first impression. My problem being is I truly believe we come with a sixth sense so to speak of, and meeting someone via the internet scares me a bit. In a social gathering spot, you can look them over, look at their friends, and also sit back and watch, this gives an idea of what you could be dealing with. Once you speak face to face, this also is something that at least with me, has set off signals good or bad, and in some cases both. If you are a person who trusts your instincts then this can be the break it or make it part of the whole game.
Doing this on the internet would be different, unless you’re psychic or something they can be an ax murder, child molester, or just an out and out liar telling you they are a successful business person, when actually they are living in the basement of their parent’s home. Sites like Harmony state they take profiles and match you on 29 different areas and this could be an awesome tool to make sure you get with someone who has similar interests and values. Again, a bit scary since you can lie on these profiles, but I have seen commercials where couples have married and seem happy. I guess this form of meeting another person could be a great way to go given the fact they’re telling the truth. Not to mention in today’s world we are always on the go and it is hard to make time to go out and meet someone as a set agenda. Therefore, with the new way of meeting singles via the internet, here are some rules of thumb to try to help you with having a safe experience.
1. Do not include any personal information in your profile such as address, workplace, personal email, or telephone number. Make a Hotmail account without personal information to correspond or through the actual dating site leave correspondence. Most sites offer this.
2. Take your time getting to know someone online before revealing any personal information. People who lie generally will be caught if you pay attention to what is being said. The story will change and be inconsistent, such as age, martial status, employment, status in life, kind of car, etc. They will even avoid answering reasonable questions directly.
3. Do not fake your profile and photograph; be honest if you are serous about meeting someone who will be interested in YOU.
4. Avoid being pressured to meet too soon, be comfortable with the person you are talking with. If you feel uncomfortable stop making contact, this is easy when you are not in person.
5. Check their profile after talking and see if information matches, this can give you some lead way as to whether they are honest or not.
6. Don’t be afraid to be yourself, keep away from sexual conversations since that will imply you are looking for something else other than a full rounded relationship with someone, instead just wanting casual sex.
If this is your choice of a way for you to meet someone in a comfortable setting, as well as safe, to begin a new relationship, then go to a good social site that is setup with precautions for keeping your personal information safe. Good luck on your venture!
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